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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

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1800 656 463

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1800 671 442

If anyone is in physical danger or about to be harmed, call the POLICE on 000 immediately!

Youth and DV Coping with Domestic Violence at Home

Also see Dating Abuse and Violence

A good, healthy relationship or family is one where everyone is treated with respect.  Good families support each other emotionally, care about what’s happening in each other’s lives, help each other express themselves and grow.

In a good relationship or family you can be yourself.  You can trust each other. But not everyone grows up in a happy home like that – in fact up to 30% of people have domestic violence in their lives in some way.

Everyone has arguments.  In an argument you’re free to agree or disagree. You can say what you think. In domestic violence, one person tries to control the other with threats, bullying and intimidation.

A good, healthy relationship or family is one where everyone is treated with respect.  Good families support each other emotionally, care about what’s happening in each other’s lives, help each other express themselves and grow.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE 24-HR HOTLINE

1800 656 463
If you need an interpreter call TTY
1800 671 442

If anyone's in physical danger or about to be harmed, call the POLICE on 000 immediately!

In a good relationship or family you can be yourself.  You can trust each other. But not everyone grows up in a happy home like that – in fact up to 30% of people have domestic violence in their lives in some way.

Everyone has arguments.  In an argument you’re free to agree or disagree. You can say what you think. In domestic violence, one person tries to control the other with threats, bullying and intimidation.
 
Domestic Violence can take many forms.

  • Sometimes parents can threaten, control, put-down or bully the other parent, or a sister or brother.
  • Sometimes they can really hurt them or their possessions. They might hit, push, throw things, smash things.
  • Sometimes they might force them to do things they don’t want to do –perhaps sexual things.
  • Or stop them seeing friends or family, or going to work.
  • Or they might follow them or stalk them.
  • They might control all the money and not let the other person have enough.
    • It’s usually men who abuse women and children.  The man may say he’s the “boss”, or he can’t help it, or he was drunk. Making lots of excuses is part of the cycle of abuse. See

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Domestic violence is wrong. It’s a crime.

Living with domestic violence can really get you down.  You might

  • Blame yourself
  • Feel ashamed and embarrassed and not want anyone to know
  • Feel alienated from your friends
  • Feel ashamed and embarrassed and avoid anyone coming over to your house
  • Feel frightened, confused or unhappy
  • Feel sick with stomach pains, headaches
  • Have trouble sleeping and eating properly
  • Find things difficult at school
  • Feel like running away or just not coming home
  • Feel angry and hurt and want to hurt yourself or others, or just smash something.
  • You might have trouble talking or have a stutter.
  • Feel like not coming home
  • Feel like getting really stoned on drugs on alcohol
  • You might get really confused about how you feel about members of your family
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You might wonder why your mum stays if it’s so bad.  It might be hard for you to understand her feelings.

  • She might still love your dad,
  • she might hope he will change,
  • she might worry about where she’ll go or how she’ll cope with money,
  • she might think she should stay so you have a dad
  • maybe your dad (or step-dad) has threatened her with more violence if she leaves him.
  • she might think it’s her fault.
    • Living with violence can really get you down.  Women who have lived with it for a long time can feel powerless to fix things.
       
      Domestic violence is never the victim’s fault, even if the abuser tries to say it is.

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