Helping Women and Children break the cycle of domestic violence...

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

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  • have been or be married or de facto with the other person
  • have been or be intimate, even if not sexual, with the other person
  • have lived or be living in the same household
  • have lived or be living in the same residential facilit
  • have been or be in a carer relationship
  • have been or be a family member or relative
  • have been or be in a relationship with the other perso
  • In the case of Aboriginal or Torres Strait Islander, you must be or have been part of the same extended family, or kin of the other person according to the Indigenous kinship system of the person's culture.

If someone is hurting, threatening, harassing, molesting, intimidating, stalking or frightening you it can be very scary and it may be hard to know how you can stop it.

These can all be grounds for an Apprehended Violence Order. It is important to remember that no one has the right to abuse or be violent towards you and there are people out there who can help.

HOW DOES DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

AFFECT THE VICTIM?

You may find it hard to believe in yourself.
You may feel that you are to blame.
You may feel physically and mentally exhausted.
You may find it difficult to trust others.
You may be living in constant fear.
You may find it difficult to see any future possibilities.
You may not see the impact on your children

Our relationships should give us respect, kindness, consideration, trust and support. 

If you don't feel respected, supported and trusted, something isn't right.

Abuse can creep into a relationship.

  • It can start with small things that we choose to overlook, or try to forget.
  • We can make excuses for the abusive behaviour or come up with strategies to stop it happening again.
  • We may think we need to make the relationship work - for a home, for social standing, or financial security.
  • Sometimes we can believe that we should put up with abuse for the sake of others, like our children, or even our abuser.
  • We might think we can help and heal our abuser.
  • We may think nobody else would ever love or want us. Our abuser may tell us that!
  • Sometimes we think it's our fault.
  • Sometimes our abusers can convince us that it's our fault.
  • Sometimes our self-esteem can be so damaged by abuse that we think we deserve to be abused.
  • Sometimes we believe that if we can change, the abuse will change.
  • Sometimes we believe if we can manage things better, the abuse will get better.
  • Sometimes we can be so ashamed of our abusive relationship that we don't want to tell anyone or get help.
  • Sometimes we feel helpless and hopeless.
  • Sometimes we can feel so low that abuse feels like love.

THE MANY FORMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE...

PHYSICAL ABUSE - includes punching, hitting, kicking, spitting, being thrown around, having objects thrown at you, use of a weapon.

SEXUAL ABUSE - use of pornography or any sexual acts that are unwanted and forced upon you without your consent.

EMOTIONAL ABUSE - frequent insults and put-downs which undermine your self confidence, threats of violence or harming your children, others and/or your pets.

ECONOMIC ABUSE - not allowing you to go out to work, denying you access to money.

SOCIAL ABUSE - not allowing you to see friends or family, wanting to know your movements throughout the day, not allowing you access to a vehicle or phone.

SPIRITUAL ABUSE - This abuse is about not allowing you to have your own opinions about religion, cultural beliefs, and values.

Stalking, harassing, threatening, molesting and intimidating are all considered Domestic Violence.